Let me highlight one final lesson I learned from Olympian Marilyn King during my mid-February Skype interview with her. This lesson you can use when you encounter the inevitable doubters and naysayers.
Let’s face it; anyone who dreams big dreams and strives to improve their lives will always encounter individuals who want to rain on their parade. Whether they be family, friends, colleagues, or strangers, their words can damage your confidence and belief in yourself. I asked Marilyn how she dealt with these people when she was striving to achieve her goal of making the Olympic Team and other goals she has set in her life.
Marilyn explained that there are two “people” you will encounter who will talk negatively, make fun of you, and do what they can to place doubt in your head.
The first are other people. To deal with them you simply need to walk away. Don’t let their negative attitudes affect you. In some cases, when you can’t simply walk away, just listen politely and let the words roll right off. Counteract their negative attitude with your own positive thoughts so these individuals have no influence over you.
The second doubter and naysayer is much more difficult to deal with or ignore. This person is the one sitting on your shoulder. Your inner-naysayer who keeps telling you that you are crazy for doing this; who is fearful of change and failure; who thinks up every reason why you can’t do whatever it is you are trying to accomplish; who meets every obstacle you encounter with an “I told you so” comment. This inner voice consistently tries to convince you to stop your pursuit and settle for something safer and less difficult.
Marilyn has consistently overcome the inner-naysayer throughout her life with a structured process. This process consists of addressing the fear by thinking of the worst-case scenario and then asking herself, “What would I do if that happened?” Most of the time she realized this great fear really wasn’t that bad. It wasn’t going to kill her; it wasn’t going to hurt her family members, etc. And by identifying what she would do if it happened she was prepared to handle it in the unlikely event that it did occur.
This week I challenge you to become aware of situations in which these naysayers are trying to influence you. If it is other people, simply walk away or think positive thoughts. If it is your inner-voice, take some time to write down what your worst fear is and what you will do if that happens. These steps will keep you on the path to perfect health, great wealth, happiness, or whatever else it is you desire.
Wishing you success in all aspects of life,
Founder & President
Smart Health, Wellness, & Performance, Inc.