The summer before my daughter’s Freshman year of high school she tried out for Orchesis, which is an elite dance club at her school. Unfortunately, after putting in her best effort, she failed to make the team. She was completely devastated and cried for what seemed like two days straight. It broke my heart.
The week after that, tryouts were taking place for the school sport, Poms. My wife told her she should try out for that but she did not want to risk failing again. Over the next week, with a lot of poking and probing from her Mom and my sister, she decided to take the chance.
After a week of tryouts, she sat in the school gym as they called the numbers of the individuals who had made the Junior Varsity team. Number after number got called as my daughter sat hoping she would make this team. They called out 15 numbers, none of which was my daughter’s, and then announced that those were the members of the Junior Varsity Team. My daugther’s heart sank, she had failed to make the JV team. As they began calling out the numbers for the Varsity Team my daughter sat there in a trance, holding back her tears and I am sure collecting some choice words to express to both my wife and my sister for making her tryout for the team.
Then suddenly she got elbowed in the shoulder by her friend sitting next to her. She looked at her and her friend said, “They called your number, go up there.” So she stands up in total shock, still in a trance trying to comprehend that she had made the Varsity Team as an incoming Freshman! Quite an accomplishment.
But the story gets better…
Throughout the four years of being on the Poms Squad she has had an incredible time. She has had phenomenal coaches, made some wonderful friends and grown tremendously as both a leader and a person.
As her last season began, those of you who read my blogs frequently or have taken my Constructing the Mind of a Champion class can probably guess what I asked her – “What is your goal for the season?” She said she wanted the team to score 80 points or higher in one of the competitions and she wanted to win the All-Conference Award because everyone who wins that award has their picture enshrined in the halls of the high school.
These were two lofty goals considering the team had never scored 80 points or higher in the previous 5 years and only one person on the team would win the All-Conference Award.
Well, as the competition season went on the team did great. Each competition they scored higher and higher moving their scores up into the high 70s. Until the second to last competition, the Regionals, when for some reason their score dropped. So it came down to the final competition - Sectionals. One last chance to achieve her goal. The team danced their hearts out and after the judges scores were added up the team learned they scored 81.83! Achieving my daughter’s first goal and putting up the best score the team had had in 5 years!
Finally, this past weekend they held the Poms banquet in which they passed out the awards for the season. The coach talked about the great times they had that year and handed out award after award. My daughter won two of the awards that her peers voted on including “Best Kick” and “Most Spirited”. Then the time came to hand out the All-Conference Award. This was the big one. The one my daughter set her sights on at the beginning of the season. The one that only one teammate was going to win. The coach introduced the award and explained how the winner is selected based on not only their skills as a dancer but as a student and a person. She then announced the winner and called my daughter’s name! The smile on my daughter’s face as she turned to look at my wife and I was radiant, and I may have shed a tear or two as she walked up to receive the award.
I share this story not to brag about my kid (ok maybe a little bit) but primarily to share with you that it seems a lot times when we fail it is because God, The Universe, Fate, or whatever else you happen to call it has something much more spectacular in store for us. You see, if she would have made Orchesis, which is a club team and therefore is not eligible for All-Conference Awards, she never would have even had the opportunity for the distinguished honor of having her picture placed in the school for students to see year-after-year.
So the next time you “fail” I hope you will keep this story in mind, keep the faith, and wait for something much more spectacular than you could have ever imagined to happen to you instead.
Wishing you success in all aspects of life,
Founder and President
Smart Health Wellness and Performance